A Tough Call: But Somebody Has To Do It

Last Saturday, I had thChristmas Baublese chance to speak at a women’s Christmas event in Cleveland. The title of my talk was, “Why He Came.” I shared how Christ came to give us hope, peace, joy and ultimately, the forgiveness of our sins so we can spend eternity with our creator.

Anytime I share it always come from something God has already taken me through or something I’m learning at the moment. I try to communicate this, because I don’t ever want to give anyone the impression that I have it all together…because I don’t.

As usual, my prayer was that God would use me in spite of my imperfections and that I would not interfere with the message he wanted the audience to hear.

The setting was an elegant candlelight sit-down dinner, catered by the acclaimed Moxie. I chose to have my meal after the event so I could enjoy it without distraction, but it proved to be difficult as I watched the gourmet courses being served to the guests at my table. The food was as beautiful as it was delicious. I won’t even begin to tell you about the “Baked Hot Chocolate” for dessert. Off the record…I thinks it’s illegal in 7 states to make something that delicious.

I digress. Can you tell I love food?

Okay, back to the real reason I was there: To share God’s love with these women. After being introduced, I managed to walk up the stairs of the stage with out tripping…a legitimate concern of mine.  I placed my notes on the podium, greeted the audience and began my talk. I like to walk and talk. Perhaps it’s because I tend to emotionally and physically relive the scenes I describe when I’m sharing what God has brought me through. Plus, if I don’t walk off all that energy I may just explode.

God always finds a way to interrupt my routine or anything else that I come to rely upon other than his grace. My little safety net, nervous twitch…or what ever you want to call it, of walking while talking, would be halted within the first 60 seconds of me starting the message. My red patent leather heel got stuck in a crack. I chuckled to myself as I looked down to see the multiple sections of the platform coming together along my walking path with seams just wide enough to grab hold of my stiletto heels. So I wisely stayed planted behind the lectern and by the grace of God, I did not explode. (Smile)

After vulnerably speaking about life and how God indeed wants to bless all of us with hope, peace and joy in spite of our experiences, I prayed for the audience and left the stage to a completely silent room. Hate to say it, but it’s a common response I get when I’m sharing on a particular topic. But I have yet to grow used to it.

I immediately prayed, “Lord, please let at least one person be touched by your word.” Then I gave a little pep talk and reminded myself that I did what God called me to do, said what he called me to say and that’s all that mattered.

Then someone started the applause, but by that time I wondered if it was simply out of a cultural obligation. I had no idea what was going through the minds of all those women.

The truth is God has called me to talk about some tough stuff; things people try to ignore. He wants us to know that in order for him to bring deep healing into our lives, we must allow him into those deep dark places that cause us shame, fear and embarrassment.

No, the audience would not leave this event giddy with laughter, but they would leave examining their hearts and prayerfully on their way to a more intimate relationship with their creator.

With every woman who approached me after the event expressing how they were challenged, encouraged or comforted by the words I spoke (God’s words), God encouraged me to keep sharing about the deeper things in life, no matter how difficult it is to relive or deliver and no matter the grandeur or austerity of the applause.

So, I will.

Exchanging Busyness for Purposeful Living

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Sometimes busyness is viewed as being synonymous with success. The more responsibility taken on, the more important a person may seem or even feel. But what’s the use if the busyness leads to an emotional breakdown instead of lasting satisfaction or positive impact? Being busy for busyness sake will rob you of what really matters. While your colleagues call you a “go getter,” those who love you may only grow bitter.

Susan had  skipped dinner with the family to finish up a couple of projects that had come her way at the last-minute.  This little maneuver meant she was able to settle down for the night an hour earlier than usual and catch up on some much-needed sleep.  Her body is exhausted. She had spent her day moving from one task to another with barely enough time to eat the lunch she scarfed down while driving to her next appointment.

Her body stretched involuntarily as she settled under the covers. Her head sank into the pillow. Thoughts of the children laughing before she put them to bed crossed her mind bringing a smile to her face. Then with a gasp, eyes wide open, the musical score from Psycho fills the air. Choco-doodles! She remembers her commitment to take her famous treats to school to celebrate her youngest child’s birthday. Not to mention the 23 goody bags she had also advertised. They’ve been talking about it for weeks. Glancing over at the clock, she moans. 10:03 PM. It’s going to be another long night.

Can you relate to Susan? She has too much on her plate.  Something needs to go, but because her schedule is filled with so many “good” things, it’s difficult to decide, which things to cut out. Continuing to do life this way, will eventually affect her health and the relationships that are meaningful to her, so she must make the decision to trade the good for the better and the better for the best.

But how does one decide what is best in a sea of good things? Here are three action points that will help:

1.  Clarify your Values: Make a list of the 10 most important things to you.

2.  Develop a Mission Statement: Create a phrase that best defines your life goals and aspirations.

3. Implement the Top 10/Mission Filter: Screen everything you do or are asked to do by answering these two questions: 1. Does it help me keep my “top 10″ a priority?  2. Does it fit into what I believe my life mission to be?” If the answer to one or both of these questions is “no” then, the opportunity may not be the “best” choice for you.

Knowing we will not have time to do what is best if our schedule is filled with doing what’s good, what are the good things in your life that need to be replace by what’s best?

Choosing the Best over the Good

 

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As I’m working towards doing life differently by putting people before my to-do list, there are some key decisions I need to make. Instead of taking on every task and request that comes my way, I need to figure out what opportunities are BEST for me even though they may all be something GOOD.

I absolutely love helping people. I get my satisfaction from seeing others succeed and if there is anything I can do to help them to reach their goals or fulfill their dreams, I want to do it!  If you share this mindset, you know that our zeal for others can  often get in the way of what’s best for us and our families.

For example: You’re going about your life, pretty satisfied and happy with the way things are going. Your schedule is pretty full, but you’re managing to juggle things successfully. You’re experiencing a sense of fulfillment and your family is still getting the attention they need.

Then along comes something “good.” It invites you to be a part of a mission that is close to your heart. Or maybe it’s not a cause dear to you, but you happen to  have the ability needed to accomplish the goal. Plus, there “seems” to be no one else who can get the job done quite like you. Then again, perhaps someone approaches you after “hearing from God” that indeed YOU are the person He has called to bring about the “good.” I mean, how can you possibly say no to “God?”

First of all, if God speaks to someone else about what He wants you to do, don’t you think He will speak to you too?  There is but one mediator between God and man and that is Christ Jesus (1 Timothy 2:5) .  And if you have a personal relationship with Him, then you have direct access to the throne of grace and the privilege of communicating with God for yourself. Now, if a person happens to confirm what God is already telling you, that’s a different story. But we need to always being seeking to do what the LORD has called us to do and not man (Galatians 1:10).

Wasn’t planning to go there, but maybe someone out there needed to hear that. :-)

Okay, back on track here… If we’re not careful, these “good” opportunities, I mentioned above, can end up pushing our lives out of balance and taking us outside  the will  of God.

But how do you  say no to doing something positive? It is difficult, but I’m finding that the best way for me to prevent my to-do list from infringing on my “to-care” list is to keep in mind that, “The good is often the enemy of the best.” There are a lot of “good” things we could be doing, but if we’re so busy doing them, then we will not have time to do what is best. Hmm. Which means we may have to come up with a system that will help us determine what’s “best” when opportunity comes knocking at our door.

Next time, let’s explore some ways we can weed out the “good” in favor of what’s “best”.

Until then, how do you decide when you should say yes to an opportunity or not?

 

Doing Life Differently

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For many years, I have lived life in a constant state of busyness. The excuse I’ve given friends and family, when I don’t return calls or emails in a timely fashion is that “I’ve just been so busy!” But when I heard someone dear to me start off a conversation by saying, “I know you’re busy,…” I realized that my busyness had begun to define me.

How could this be, when my heart’s desire is to value my relationships above my to-do lists? I’ve wanted to be the type of person who helps others feel the value God places on them and one who is present in everything I do; not distracted. Instead, I have allowed the many demands to pull me into a space where it is impossible for me to live within that value system.

I boldly say, “No more!”

From here on out I’m going to do things differently. I’ll keep you posted on how things go…

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