Sometimes busyness is viewed as being synonymous with success. The more responsibility taken on, the more important a person may seem or even feel. But what’s the use if the busyness leads to an emotional breakdown instead of lasting satisfaction or positive impact? Being busy for busyness sake will rob you of what really matters. While your colleagues call you a “go getter,” those who love you may only grow bitter.
Susan had skipped dinner with the family to finish up a couple of projects that had come her way at the last-minute. This little maneuver meant she was able to settle down for the night an hour earlier than usual and catch up on some much-needed sleep. Her body is exhausted. She had spent her day moving from one task to another with barely enough time to eat the lunch she scarfed down while driving to her next appointment.
Her body stretched involuntarily as she settled under the covers. Her head sank into the pillow. Thoughts of the children laughing before she put them to bed crossed her mind bringing a smile to her face. Then with a gasp, eyes wide open, the musical score from Psycho fills the air. Choco-doodles! She remembers her commitment to take her famous treats to school to celebrate her youngest child’s birthday. Not to mention the 23 goody bags she had also advertised. They’ve been talking about it for weeks. Glancing over at the clock, she moans. 10:03 PM. It’s going to be another long night.
Can you relate to Susan? She has too much on her plate. Something needs to go, but because her schedule is filled with so many “good” things, it’s difficult to decide, which things to cut out. Continuing to do life this way, will eventually affect her health and the relationships that are meaningful to her, so she must make the decision to trade the good for the better and the better for the best.
But how does one decide what is best in a sea of good things? Here are three action points that will help:
1. Clarify your Values: Make a list of the 10 most important things to you.
2. Develop a Mission Statement: Create a phrase that best defines your life goals and aspirations.
3. Implement the Top 10/Mission Filter: Screen everything you do or are asked to do by answering these two questions: 1. Does it help me keep my “top 10″ a priority? 2. Does it fit into what I believe my life mission to be?” If the answer to one or both of these questions is “no” then, the opportunity may not be the “best” choice for you.
Knowing we will not have time to do what is best if our schedule is filled with doing what’s good, what are the good things in your life that need to be replace by what’s best?